Human beings are social creatures by design. Even the most introverted among us are wired to connect. But this isn’t just personality, it’s psychology.
The psychology of connection is all about how our brains are built for relationships. From an evolutionary perspective, we needed each other to survive.
So, what’s going on in the brain? Neuroscience tells us that when we feel connected, our brains release oxytocin, the feel-good hormone associated with trust and bonding. This makes us more open, cooperative and motivated. In contrast, isolation or poor connection at work can trigger the same stress responses as physical pain.
Psychologist Matthew Lieberman puts it simply: our need to connect is as fundamental as food and water. Which makes sense. Try going a full week without any human interaction. Actually, don’t. We care about your wellbeing.
At work, this means teams thrive when people feel seen, heard, and valued. When is connection missing? That’s when misunderstandings fester, morale dips, and productivity becomes a bit... meh.